Turns out, women don't wallow and binge eat after breakups.
Ending a relationship is rough, especially when you aren't exactly sure how to get over a breakup and come out the other side in one piece. And aside from the metaphorical breaking of your heart, there are those painstaking social media reminders that, yes, your ex does still have a life and it's going just fine without you.
Imagine how easy a romantic split would be in a world without Facebook status updates, TMI-tweets, and random urges to send a drunken text. Sounds like a fantasy land, right? Well, though you cannot send your social media websites a cease and desist order, you can take a step towards post-dumping psychological well-being by cutting all ties with your ex.
We recently surveyed more than 1,300 people. Our findings concluded that 85 percent have a hard time getting over a breakup and could really use a "break-over" to help in the healing process.
While we're here to help this happen, we discovered that women aren't wallowing and eating their feelings post-breakup, as pop culture might have us believe. Instead, they're taking healthy, proactive steps like exercising, spending time with friends, and avoiding sleeping with their ex — all in the name of moving on.
Here are other some other breakup myths and facts the survey revealed:
1. Women don't use food as comfort.
Romantic comedies and sitcoms have us assuming that a pint of Ben & Jerry's — or some other fully-loaded ice cream — is a woman's top choice for post-dumping indulgence. But such is not the case, according to our survey.
Ladies actually turn to wine when reeling from a breakup. Chocolate came in second as the comfort food of choice, with healthy food, salty food and ice cream following behind.
2. Most people don't gain weight after a breakup.
With all of that snacking, it's easy to assume weight gain comes with breakup territory. But only seven percent of those surveyed say they put on a few pounds after a split.
Rather, 35 percent say they are motivated to hit the gym and/or start a new diet. Makes sense, as 84 percent agree that breaking up with someone can be a good opportunity for self-improvement.
3. And they are refraining from sleeping with their ex.
Sex with an ex? No thanks. No need for one last sexual hurrah with a former lover. A whopping 81 percent agreed that ex sex is always a bad idea. The best way to heal (aside from a technology "breakup," that is)? Most say spending time with friends, exercising, and going shopping are surefire routes to recovery.
4. There's a certain mourning time.
It may seem rash to unfriend an ex after a breakup, especially if the split was "mutual" or "friendly." But the problem with staying friends on Facebook and Twitter is knowing when your ex has fallen for someone new.
More than 75 percent of respondents agreed that if you feel the sting of jealousy when you realize your ex has moved on, it's likely because you're not over him. Speaking of getting over him, 55 percent say it typically takes months to do so.
So, is the notion that going from lovers to friends soon after a breakup a good idea? Eh, not so much. Taking some time apart — physically, emotionally and digitally — seems to be the better method.
5. Refrain from certain things to move on.
Respondents reported "talking it through with the ex," "eating," and "having ex sex" as the least effective means of moving on from a relationship. Noted!
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